FORGIVE YOURSELF FIRST BEFORE YOU FORGIVE OTHERS

As the new year is approaching and my 23nd Birthday right after (whoop whoop J ) (i feel super old L)  I have been thinking about each and every experience I encountered this year, people I met, people I no longer associate with, my family, friends, my health, basically every aspect of life. I feel the older I get, the wiser I become. The more I appreciate life, those who care about me. Recently, I have been having such a hard time forgiving people who have hurt me in the past. I’m not sure what is it, sometimes I could be completely fine, thinking I’ve put it all behind me and I’m no longer stressing about it. Other times I start reminiscing and bad memories start hunting my mind, then I start to hold so much anger and I become so upset towards those people. So I started asking myself how in the world am I supposed to forgive those people when I can’t seem to forget all the bad they have done to me. And so, I came to the conclusion that it wasn’t so much about those people anymore, but about myself. Why was I spending so much time worrying people who brought no value to my life, when I could be working on myself. So as of today, I ask you to join me on a journey to forgiving yourself. Stop blaming yourself for your actions, don’t be too hard on yourself for failing at a particular area of your life, don’t hold hate or anger towards others. Instead learn from those experiences, learn about yourself, these experiences were meant to happen to help you become the best version of yourself. Grab a notebook and write out your feelings. Start finding peace with your inner self before finding it with others. I was told something no too long ago which I always try to remember: EVERYTHING THAT YOU’RE GOING THROUGH IS PREPARING YOU FOR WHAT YOU ASKED FOR. I hope this helped somebody