As someone with chronic pain, I feel like I’m always trying to get people to understand me and my life. And most of the time, even after I try explaining it all, they still don’t understand.
A few weeks ago I was chatting with a friend and one of their friends (that I’ve known for a while) asked me how I was doing. On this particular day, I was not doing great at all. My pain had been so high the days before. I decided that instead of hiding my experiences, I would tell the truth. “Honestly, I’m doing really shitty,” I told him. His response was to say “Oh” and then change the topic. And this is how it normally goes when I tell someone that I have chronic pain, they don’t know how to respond so they don’t respond at all. The result is me feeling like no one cares enough to provide the support I really need.
A few days ago, I saw on my Timehop that a year ago I posted on Facebook venting about the pain I was in. A good friend of mine commented supporting me through this pain. Now, the same person doesn’t even text me to ask me how I’m doing. In fact, the only time I ever talk to this person is when I need to get more weed so I can get some relief from constant pain.
I think most people think I’m just lazy and over-exaggerate the pain I’m in. Trust me, I would love it if my pain just went away and I was able to do all the things I can’t right now. No one with chronic pain is happy that they have to lay around the house day after day.