Ever since we started reading “Feminist, queer, crip” I have been doing a lot of self reflection as well as asking myself a lot of questions that don’t have easy answers.
One of the questions that I just can’t shake off is the question of why reproductive time is used as the default scale for how and when people are supposed to live their lives. I know that this “reproductive time” varies slightly throughout the world, but ultimately it’s about heterosexual individuals growing up, getting married, and having kids. The ages may differ, the “acceptable” amount of kids may differ, the obtaining of gainful employment may differ (especially depending on gender), there may be other slight differences, but the overriding idea of coupling up and having children exists. Why?
It seems that in present times, using reproductive time as a measure of anything is really outdated. Why is coupling up with someone a priority? Why is getting married a priority? Having kids? Additionally, anyone that deviates from the “norm” (heteronormative standard) suffers from this timeline. Even heterosexual individuals that just do not want to procreate suffer due to this idea that getting married and having kids is the ultimate, end all be all.
Something else that really stands out to me about this “reproductive time” is that this is kind of MOST limiting to females. Women are the ones that have to literally carry the physical (and emotional) labor of pregnancy. This creates a pretty heavy imbalance against women in terms of choices they can make and things they can do because they are so limited and boxed in by this reproductive time.
This concept of time is just really baffling and off putting to me and I can’t quite nail down a concrete reason why, but there are plenty of fragmented reasons that rub me the wrong way.