Every child, for the most part, growing up, regardless of race, religion, ethnicity, social hierarchy, or where they are raised, are wished success, wealth, and health from their parental units. Only in the F-ed up situations, where the parents are really scummy people, do they not want the best for their offspring, or their adopts. But focusing primarily on the “good parents” or the parents who desire to see their children succeed, it is a unanimous trait to want a better life for their children versus the life that they had. This becomes possible through sacrifice, determination, and patience. With all of this being said, it is a responsibility for the child to achieve so much because of what their parents are giving up in order for them to accomplish the dreams they have for themselves and the dreams that the parents have for them.
Continuing the dream that a parent has for their dependent, aka us, can be a very difficult obstacle because sometimes our desires and dreams do not exactly match up to the desires, dreams and expectations that our parents have for us. Some examples of how a parent may be disappointed in their child is if they do not want to pursue a career path that the parents had desired for them, or if the child has a dream that would not necessarily bring prestige that the family is looking for. These examples are on the softer end of the spectrum, because some families have a different expectation of their children’s sexuality which makes the topic a magnitude more complicated. Unfortunately, I’ve heard from close friends that parents were on the verge of rejecting their children because they didn’t necessarily agree with their child’s sexual orientation. This specific scenario that parents and children have with one another has always raised questions to me because I have always had an understanding that a child is a parents most beloved possession. That being said, when a child confesses that a specific type of love makes her/him happy shouldn’t the parent be instinctively on board with it. This complete acceptance isn’t always the case because the parent typically feels that in order for the child to get further in life then they have the child needs to follow a specific sexual orientation to accomplish this. Some families claim that religion is the reason for their disapproval, but with my experience from my close friends it always tends to gravitate around the fact that success is the main driving force for the parents disapproval.
I hope that we may live in a society where there may be a balance between acceptance and potential opportunity for success. Which there is, but for a parent to feel the security of it may not be completely there yet. As time progresses and liberal ideologies become more socially acceptable, a change in trend will occur that will eradicate the stigma of an imbalance between success and orientation.