My friend and ex co-worker moved to Georgia a couple of years ago. She began dating a guy I’d never met, but he seemed charasmatic and energetic enough to keep up with her. He was the best person to get to know through photos- bald with a beard down to his belt buckle, tattooed everywhere, and toured all the time with my friend and his metal band- they seemed to always be having a good time.
A month ago yesterday, they were in a motorcycle accident while he was driving. She’s still in the hospital with a few broken bones, but will make a full recovery. After being in a coma overnight, he passed away from his injuries the day after.
Like I said, I’ve never met him, but I’ve been so torn up about her loss, and have witnessed the journey of her mourning process since he passed. I have a very small family and have been fortunate to have never suffered tragic loss, so maybe her story seems bigger to me than it does to others, but it’s affecting me in real ways.
I’ve been questioning my mortality daily. Maybe because he was so young and so like me. Maybe because of how I’d feel if my boyfriend passed. He justified his literally hundreds of tattoos by saying he wanted to copy his grandfather’s dumb tattoos, and implying that it is merely flesh, and flesh is not permanent.
My goal is to remember that nothing is permanent. I’ve never even met him, and I got a tattoo for him. I hope it reminds me every day that soon enough I’ll be gone too, and to truly live happily and be kind to others because all of it only matters up until this moment.
I went through a very similar experience. I had a group of friends who lost one of their friends to suicide. He lived in Texas so I never met him, but I was severely emotionally impacted from it for a long time…I still am actually. It’s hard when someone that you know is having a great impact and is probably a great person has to go so soon. It’s unreal, and it could be us at any moment.
I got a Green Lantern tattoo him, and I never met him, so I think it’s great that you did that. It’s very reasonable and it means you have a big heart. I’m sorry that you’re feeling such a deep impact from this, I know it’s not easy, but it really does add sometime to how short life is.
after reading your post, I really want to say that every tattoo has its own story to tell because we all been through a lot of things our own, may be different with others something. And a tattoo just like a creation pretty much.
Anyway, your post also remind me of a quote “a man who is without tattoo is meaning invisible to the Gods”.
I love this post because it showed your concern and feelings for another, while also taking on the tattoo controversy. I admire how you showed how tattoos are more than inking your body but an expression that can mean more than to the stranger’s eye.