“Are you sick….
because you look like you are…
or do you just not have on any make-up?”
I’ve noticed that within my peers, whenever a girl posts a selfie they’re super excited to announce that they either don’t have make up on, didn’t put a filter on it, or woke up flawless. Thanks Beyonce. I can’t pretend like I’ve never been one of these girls, but recently I began to wonder why we feel the need to broadcast what we “normally” look like. What is normal? Why can’t our make-up face be our normal face or must our bare-faced one be the only one? Why do we crave being told that we are still “pretty” even when we don’t have make-up on?
I began to wear make-up sometime in high school, but it was so minute that you could barely tell. Just a hint of eyeliner in my upper waterline, and a bit of mascara. It wasn’t until the last 3 years or so where I began to fill in my eyebrows, learned how to do a cat-eye and contoured my face with bronzer and highlighter. This is what made me feel “prettier” than I normally did. So then, I began to do a cat-eye regularly instead of only on special occasions. And of course, I couldn’t do a cat-eye without filling in my eyebrows as well or else I’d look washed-out, so this is where I began to basically have a full face of make-up practically everyday. I would skip the contouring and the foundation, but for those who don’t wear make-up daily would take one look at me upon meeting and their first impression would be just that: my made-up face. And that was the face they’d get accustomed to.
Just like any other person, I’d have days where I’m late or in a rush or just didn’t feel like wearing make-up. I’d arrive at work or school and be greeted by confused hellos and double-takes because people couldn’t figure out if it was me or not. Sometimes, when they couldn’t figure out why I looked so pale they would just ask me if I’m sick. It happened enough times for me to finally take a second and realize that I don’t want to look sick just because I don’t have make-up on. That’s like, basically an insult and therefore saying that you aren’t “pretty” without the made-up face. I wanted to stop depending on make-up so much in order to feel pretty, and so I began to change up my daily make-up regime to slowly reduce how much I used and transition the people who already knew me to get used to what I look like without it. Before, I refused to leave out the house without it but now, I could not careless. I learned that everyday you are meeting new people that have no clue how “pretty” you can be, and it’s not like anybodies’ first impression of you is gonna be like, mortified that you’re hideous. Those people don’t know you, and you have no clue how you look to someone upon first glance anyways because everyone’s opinions are so different. I began to look at make-up as a “wow” factor. Look regular everyday and then that one day for a specific reason, show up with make-up and people are blown away by how beautiful you are because they had no clue. Your beauty shouldn’t be dependent on the amount of make-up you wear, but it should just simply be enhanced by it.
Now, I probably only wear this stuff on weekends or when I’m doing things that require a large number of people to be looking at me. This is mainly because moments like these I know I’ll be getting photographed so it’s reasonable to want to have a made-up face. But I finally learned that it’s not reasonable to put on this whole new face just to go to the grocery store and nowhere else. I’ve noticed these days that when I meet people for the first time bare-faced, they still compliment me. Therefore, all my previous insecurities were just that. Insecurities. I was the only person making myself feel less pretty when there are people who didn’t think that at all. I’m not yet at the point where I’m comfortable enough to post a completely make-up-less face on social media, but I think I’m headed into the right direction into getting there.