I was inspired while reading Navigating Boundaries to discuss my own love for physical contact!
Although I am mostly an introvert, I crave physical contact on an consistent basis. Maybe it is because I spend little time with large amounts of people that I like it when someone touches me. I want hugs, hand-holding, cuddling and leaning against someone. It feels very personal to me, though, and I am often afraid to initiate contact, for fear of crossing a line with someone, maybe our relationship isn’t strong enough.
It’s also occurred to me that physical contact helps me feel noticed and important. When someone in my life spares enough thought to touch my shoulder as they pass by, or kiss me on the head before they rush out the door (my roommate has done this and it makes me smile), I feel like I mean something in their life, and I’m not just a body taking up space.
Being here at school and away from my close-knit neighborhood and my family is really difficult for me, and I feel more alone here at school surrounded by like-minded peers than I did in community college where I felt a bit standoffish as it was.
Anyway, enjoy the Rocky Horror Music!