In my 21 years of living I have never struggled so much as I have recently. My mother is all about helping family and although I’m neither for or against her decisions this was one that made my life difficult and irritated.
So I have a 3rd cousin who is about my age only difference is she has a mental disability and although she can do many things on her own she will always need to live with someone to ensure that she takes her medication daily and does everything that she needs to in order to live a successful life. My mom decided to invite her to spend the night at our house so that she can feel loved however, although this is a kind gesture she bit off way more than she could chew and it made those two days very difficult. I told my mom it was all on her because I was not going to help her with my cousin, I already knew it was going to be difficult and I didn’t wanna get involved. I am no ones babysitter and all I wanted to do was relax since it was Thanksgiving Break. When she first arrived it seemed pretty easy since my mom took her grocery shopping. However, I knew once they got back that this would be a weekend that would test my patience. My mom has always been one that says “Now, when we go to the store don’t you dare ask for anything!”, but yet it seemed like that rule only applied to me since when they came home she had bought my cousin a big bag of candy! Was I feeling salty? Of course I was!!! This wasn’t what made my weekend difficult though. Everything got harder when I realized that my mom had expected me to help her, which I still wasn’t! Later on that day we went to eat at Olive Garden and although the dinner was quite peaceful not long after we stood up from the table my cousin decided to wander off in which my mom then had to go after her. Once we got back to the house everyone went to their own rooms and the peace was restored. The next morning however as we were preparing to get ready for church my cousin took it upon herself to try and cook herself breakfast in which she had the stove flames up to high and wasn’t paying attention.. nearly burned down the kitchen. Each time my mother had asked me to watch her and each time I politely responded I did not come home to babysit. After church for my family is usually when we watch football however, before that would happen my cousin decided she wanted to do what I did and run on the treadmill and once again my mother asked me if I could watch her smh! In order to avoid any more situations I just decided to stay in my room with the door shut! Though this may sound like I was just being an ass this weekend I wasn’t trying to! Being an only child this was the first time I’ve ever had to share my mother with someone else and to add to it, it was with someone with a mental disability who wound of getting most of my mothers attention. Having not seen my mother in two months it sucked to have my first days back placed on the back burner since my mom had to care for someone other than me! This was a hard two days not only having to share my mother with someone who needs my mothers attention most of the time but also because I never had to deal so closely with someone who had a mental disability. Although I’m happy she was able to feel loved by my mother I was happy to see her go back home.